Healing Estranged Relationships

RESOURCES FOR PEOPLE EXPERIENCING DISENGAGEMENT, ALIENATION, ESTRANGEMENT, OR RUPTURE FROM THEIR FAMILIES OF ORIGIN

Books:

 Adams, J. (1994). I’m still your mother: How to get along with your grown-up children for the rest of you life.NY:  Delacorte Press.

 Adams, J. (2003). When our grown kids disappoint us. Letting go of their problems, loving them anyway, and getting on with our lives. NY: Simon & Schuster.

 Atkins, D. (2004). I’m OK, you’re my parents: How to overcome guilt, let go of anger, and create a relationship that works. NY: Henry Hole & Co.

 Baker, A. J. L. (2007). Adult children of parental alienation syndrome:  Breaking the ties that bind.  NY:  W. W. Norton.

 Ben-Shahar, T. (2002). The question of happiness: On finding meaning, pleasure, and the ultimate currency. San Jose:  Writers Club Press.

 Bloomfield, H. H. (1983). Making peace with your parents: The key to enriching your life and all your relationships. NY:  Ballantine.

Brandt, D. (1984). Is that all there is? Overcoming disappointment in an age of diminished expectations. NY: Posidon.

Brandt, D. (1998).  Is that all there is? Balancing expectation and disappointment in your life. San Luis Obispo: Impact Publishers.

Chapman, G. & Thomas, J. (2006). The five languages of apology. Chicago:  Northfield.

Coleman, J. (2007). When parents hurt: Compassionate strategies when you and your grown child don’t get along.  NY: Harper Collins.

Davis, L. (2002). I thought we’d never speak again. NY:  HarperCollins.

Dayton, T. (1997). Heartwounds: The impact of unresolved trauma and grief on relationships. Deerfield Beach: Health Communications.

Dyer, W. S. (1986). No more holiday blues.  NY:  Harper Collins.

Ellis, A. (1977). Anger: How to live with and without it. Secaucus, NJ: Carol Publishing Group.

Friedel, R. O. (2004).  Borderline personality disorder demystified:  An essential guide for understanding and living with bpd.  NY:  Marlowe & Co.

Harder, A. (1994, 2002). Letting go of our adult children: When what we do is never enough [Electronic version].  Retrieved from http://www.learningplaceonline.com/relationships/letgo/book-intro.htm.

Herst, C. (1998). For mothers of difficult daughters: How to enrich and repair the bond in adulthood.. NY: Random House.

Isay, J. (2007). Walking on eggshells:  Navigating the delicate relationship between adult children and their parents. NY:  Doubleday.

James, J. W. & Friedman, R. (1998). The grief recovery handbook:  The action program for moving beyond death, divorce, and other losses. NY:  HarperCollins.

Jordan, J. V., Kaplan, A. G., Miller, J. B., Stiver, I. P., & Surrey, J. L. (1991). Women’s growth in connection.  NY: Guilford.

Katherine, A. (1991). Boundaries:  Where you end and I begin. NY:  Simon & Schuster.

Katherine, A. (2000). Where to draw the line:  How to set healthy boundaries every day. NY:  Simon & Schuster.

Kushner, H. S. (1981). When bad things happen to good people. NY:  Schocken Books.

Kushner, H. S. (1986). When all you’ve ever wanted isn’t enough. NY:  Summit Books.

Kushner, H. S. (2006).  Overcoming life’s disappointments.  NY:  Alfred A. Knopf.

Kuttner, R. & Trotter, S. (2002). Family re-union: Reconnecting parents and children in adulthood. NY: Free Press

 Lebay, B. (2001). Family estrangements: How they begin, how to mend them, how to cope with them. Marietta, GA: Longstreet Press.

 Leiber, P., Murphy, G. S., & Schwartz, A. M. (1994). Grown-up children, Grown-up parents: Opening the door to healthy relationships between parents and adult children. NY: Birch Lane Press.

 Lerner, H. (1985, 1997). The dance of anger: A woman’s guide to changing the patterns of intimate relationships. NY: Harper & Row.
 
 Lerner, H. (1989). The dance of intimacy: A woman’s guide to courageous acts of change in key relationships. NY: Harper & Row.

 Mason, P. T. & Kreger, R. (1998).  Stop walking on eggshells:  Taking your life back when someone you care about has borderline personality disorder. Oakland:  New Harbinger.

 McDermott, D. & Snyder, C. R. (1999). Making hope happen:  A workbook for turning possibilities into reality. Oakland:  New Harbinger.

 McKay, M., Rogers, P. & McKay, J. (2003). When anger hurts:  Quieting the storm within. Oakland:  New Harbinger.

 Merrill, D. (2007). Mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law: Understanding the relationship and what makes them friends or foe. Westport, CT: Praeger.

 Newman, S. (2003). Nobody’s baby now: Reinventing your adult relationship with your mother and father. NY:  Walker & Company.

 Potter-Erfron, R. & Potter-Efron, P. (1995).  Letting go of anger:  The 10 most common anger styles and what to do about them. Oakland:  New Harbinger.

 Richards, N. (2008). Heal & forgive II:  The journey from abuse and estrangement to reconciliation.  Nevada City, CA:  Blue Dolphin Publishing.

 Santoro, J. & Cohen, R. (1997).  The angry heart:  Overcoming borderline and addictive disorders. Oakland:  New Harbinger

Sichel, M. (2004). Healing from family rifts: Ten steps to finding peace after being cut off from a family member. NY:  McGraw-Hill.

 Smith, S. L. (1991).  Making peace with your adult children. NY: Perseus Publishing.

 Sucov, E. B. (2006). Fragmented families:  Patterns of estrangement and reconciliation. Jerusalem: Southern Hills Press.

 Tannen, D. (2006). You’re wearing that? Understanding mothers and daughters in conversation. NY:  Random House.

 Whitfield, C. L. (1993). Boundaries and relationships:  Knowing, protecting and enjoying the self. Deerfield Beach, FL:  Health Communications, Inc.

 Zax, B. & Poulter, S. (1998). Mending the broken bough: Restoring the promise of the mother-daughter relationship. NY: Berkley Books.

Blogs:
http://blogs.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-therapist-is-in
http://drjoshuacoleman.com/blog
 
Internet Sites:
www.aarp.org
www.cheryldellasega.com
 www.grandmagazine.com
www.grandparenting.org
 www.grandparenting.org
 www.grandparentsapart.co.uk
www.grandparentsasparents.com
 www.estrangements.com/blogjunetodec05.html
 www.hergroup.org
 www.janektolerphd.com
 www.joshuacoleman.net
 www.marksichel.com
www.seniorsnetwork.co.uk
 www.support4change.com
 www.nami.org –
National Alliance on Mental Illness
  Phone:  703-524-7600 (Main)
   800-950-NAMI [6264] (Help Line)

Local Resources:
• (Dallas) Alcoholics Anonymous
– Phone:  214-887-6699
– Services:  Information about Alcoholics Anonymous program of recovery and group locations in the Dallas area.
• (Dallas) Al-Anon/Alateen
– Phone:  214-363-0461
– Services:  Support groups for families and friends of alcoholics, professional resource materials, speakers.
• (Dallas) Mental Health Association
– Phone:  214-871-2420
– Services:  Leads, coordinates and involves the community in improving mental health by advocating for improved care and treatment, conducting education and prevention programs, and raising public awareness about mental health and mental illness.
• (Dallas) Suicide and Crisis Center
– Phone:  214-824-7020 (Administration)
             214-828-1000 (24 Hour Crisis Line)
– Services:  24 Hour telephone crisis counseling for individuals in crisis, especially suicidal crisis; community education; support groups for those who have lost a loved one to suicide; screen teenagers at schools for depression.

Emergency Help:
• Suicide and Crisis Hotline   214-828-1000
• Parkland Hospital – 214-590-8000, 5201 Harry Hines Boulevard, Dallas, TX, 75235
• Parkland Hospital Psychiatric Emergency Service – 214-590-8761, 5201 Harry Hines Boulevard, Dallas, TX, 75235